So, I really haven’t sat down and written a blog post since I decided to leave college. Truthfully, I’ve had time, but I’ve also been so crazy busy living my life. Generally I decide to write when I have something weighing heavy on my heart, telling me, “Casie, just write the damn blog post.” I probably would have written this two months ago, but I’m simply just… lazy. I think I started to really think about this post six months ago when I came home from college on a break. I remember feeling like, my life totally sucks. (Which, it didn’t. I just had this total “woe is me” attitude that really needed to be smacked out of me.)
I remember sitting on my baby sister’s bed while she look in the mirror and pulled what tiny bit of baby fat she has left from her adorable tummy and said, “Oh my gosh, I am so fat.” And I had this moment where I sort of just, well, broke down. I remember telling her, “You are NOT fat. You are the most beautiful and amazing person in the whole entire world.” And then I went in the bathroom and cried. (I was and still am so hormonal, lord help my boyfriend. Ha!)
This was when I really thought about my life and the example I was living. Where did she even learn what “fat” was? She’s nine years old. Being “fat” should be the last thing on her mind. And I thought to myself, “Casie you do that type of shit all the time.” Which was so true. I can’t even count the amount of times I looked in the mirror and thought that I just wasn’t’ good enough. I was ten pounds too fat, I have huge thighs, I have such a gross stomach, or I hate my freckles, yada-yada-yada. The list just goes on. This was the day that I realized that I constantly saw women saying they weren’t enough. This was the day that I decided I was going to change the way that I thought, the way that I act, and the woman I am.
For anyone who doesn’t know I have the most amazing influence of women and young women in my life. My mom, grandmas, aunts, sister’s, co-workers, and friends. So to make it short and simple; this is for all the women in my life, but most importantly this is for my sister’s.
So this is the nine things I want you to know, and NEVER forget!
(P.S. I love you all. <3)
One,
You are beautiful.
Whether that be with a fresh face of make-up, or a bare skin glow. Please remember, no number on a scale defines who you are as a person on the inside. You are beautiful in the skin you wear every single day, and you never have to change who you are to fit a standard that anyone else sets for you. Love yourself for who you are. Your stretch marks, freckles, dirty blonde hair, haven’t showered in two days self; is so amazingly beautiful.
Two,
Never settle.
Don’t settle for anything, EVER. This applies to schooling, relationships, and successes. If you want to play in the NBA don’t you dare settle for the WNBA. (Yes, that one is for Klowie.) If you want to travel or explore, don’t just leave it on some bucket list. Get it done. If you want to be a Doctor don’t just settle for being a nurse. You can literally do anything you put your mind to. And when it comes to relationships, choose to be with someone who lifts you up, and encourages you to be your best you every single day. No matter what you want to do, never settle for second best.
Three,
It’s okay to have failures.
I mean this in the way that if you try something and fail, don’t just give up. You are capable of doing anything. If you fail once or twice, keep trying! You will only get better. Every time I’ve done something and failed, I’ve learned from it. Whether that was failing my very first class ever in college, or simply trying to run a mile in 8 minutes. If anything it just taught me that I really suck at math, and can’t procrastinate like I can in every other subject. Oh, and that I’m a really slow runner, but I’m still going to run the whole damn mile without stopping. Thomas Edison once said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” So if you fail, just remember to keep going. One failure will only make you better!
Four,
You don’t need a man (or significant other) in your life, in order for your life to have meaning.
The only person you need in your life is YOU. You are the only person who can be content with the decisions you choose to make in life. Having a man in your life doesn’t mean shit. And I quite literally mean that. No man defines who you are as a person. Nobody is thinking, “Oh my hell, she doesn’t have a boyfriend? Something must be wrong with her.” (And if they are thinking that please direct them to me, I’ll take care of it.)
Five,
When you do have a boyfriend (or significant other), they should help make you a better person.
By this, I mean that they should make everything in your life better. Like, hello, they are your boyfriend. They should make you laugh, and laugh so hard you cry. They should be there to cheer you on, not critique or reprimand you. They are your partner in crime for everything you wish to do. They should be the kind of person who loves you for exactly who you are, and everything you wish to be. I only wish for you to have the type of man who will eat pizza in bed with you at 1 in the morning while you drink red wine, and then wake your ass up in ten hours to go to the gym. This should be the type of man who will tell you you’re beautiful with no make-up on, who will make you breakfast in the morning, who will do stuff that YOU want to do, whether it’s with your family or just you, and have a damn good attitude while doing it (even though he might not want to be there.). This should be the type of man who loves you with his whole heart, puts you above all else, and lets you know this: Every. Damn. Day.
Six,
Your destiny is not predetermined by anyone other than God.
Meaning, you don’t have to get married at 20 and start popping kids out three months later. If you choose to never get married, fine. If you choose to travel the world and not get married until you’re 40, great. If you want 8 kids, awesome. If you don’t want any kids, cool. If you want to be a stay at home mom, sweet. If you want to be a career woman, deal. But whatever it is you choose to do, you better do it because that’s what YOU want. Not because someone else wants that for you, or because society tells you that’s what is “acceptable.” Simply trust in what God has in store for you, his plan never fails.
Seven,
Don’t listen to anything society tells you.
Period. End of question.
Eight,
Stay humble.
Have a big heart, be compassionate, be selfless, but never forget who you are or what you stand for. Remember that through all your triumphs and successes you are still human. People are constantly going to be looking at you, watching everything you do. So be the type of woman that your future daughters and nieces will look up to. Simply by being you, and being the best you, that will be enough. Just never forget that someone, somewhere, wants to be exactly like you. And for that, I can’t blame them. (Because you are amazing, duh!)
Nine,
Last, and never the least important. I will always be there for you.
I will be the person there for you at 2 o’clock in the morning when you are crying, or when you’re drunk, and telling me how much you love me. I will always be your biggest supporter. I will always be your best friend. No matter how much I disagree with something in your life, no matter how much I tease, no matter how big of an attitude I have. I will be there for you, and I love you more than you will ever know.
My number one goal in life is to be the type of woman that other’s look up to, and to share with other women that they are enough! YOU ARE ENOUGH, and I love each and every single one of you for being exactly who you are.
Xoxo,
It’s Her Journey
I remember sitting on my baby sister’s bed while she look in the mirror and pulled what tiny bit of baby fat she has left from her adorable tummy and said, “Oh my gosh, I am so fat.” And I had this moment where I sort of just, well, broke down. I remember telling her, “You are NOT fat. You are the most beautiful and amazing person in the whole entire world.” And then I went in the bathroom and cried. (I was and still am so hormonal, lord help my boyfriend. Ha!)
This was when I really thought about my life and the example I was living. Where did she even learn what “fat” was? She’s nine years old. Being “fat” should be the last thing on her mind. And I thought to myself, “Casie you do that type of shit all the time.” Which was so true. I can’t even count the amount of times I looked in the mirror and thought that I just wasn’t’ good enough. I was ten pounds too fat, I have huge thighs, I have such a gross stomach, or I hate my freckles, yada-yada-yada. The list just goes on. This was the day that I realized that I constantly saw women saying they weren’t enough. This was the day that I decided I was going to change the way that I thought, the way that I act, and the woman I am.
For anyone who doesn’t know I have the most amazing influence of women and young women in my life. My mom, grandmas, aunts, sister’s, co-workers, and friends. So to make it short and simple; this is for all the women in my life, but most importantly this is for my sister’s.
So this is the nine things I want you to know, and NEVER forget!
(P.S. I love you all. <3)
One,
You are beautiful.
Whether that be with a fresh face of make-up, or a bare skin glow. Please remember, no number on a scale defines who you are as a person on the inside. You are beautiful in the skin you wear every single day, and you never have to change who you are to fit a standard that anyone else sets for you. Love yourself for who you are. Your stretch marks, freckles, dirty blonde hair, haven’t showered in two days self; is so amazingly beautiful.
Two,
Never settle.
Don’t settle for anything, EVER. This applies to schooling, relationships, and successes. If you want to play in the NBA don’t you dare settle for the WNBA. (Yes, that one is for Klowie.) If you want to travel or explore, don’t just leave it on some bucket list. Get it done. If you want to be a Doctor don’t just settle for being a nurse. You can literally do anything you put your mind to. And when it comes to relationships, choose to be with someone who lifts you up, and encourages you to be your best you every single day. No matter what you want to do, never settle for second best.
Three,
It’s okay to have failures.
I mean this in the way that if you try something and fail, don’t just give up. You are capable of doing anything. If you fail once or twice, keep trying! You will only get better. Every time I’ve done something and failed, I’ve learned from it. Whether that was failing my very first class ever in college, or simply trying to run a mile in 8 minutes. If anything it just taught me that I really suck at math, and can’t procrastinate like I can in every other subject. Oh, and that I’m a really slow runner, but I’m still going to run the whole damn mile without stopping. Thomas Edison once said, “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” So if you fail, just remember to keep going. One failure will only make you better!
Four,
You don’t need a man (or significant other) in your life, in order for your life to have meaning.
The only person you need in your life is YOU. You are the only person who can be content with the decisions you choose to make in life. Having a man in your life doesn’t mean shit. And I quite literally mean that. No man defines who you are as a person. Nobody is thinking, “Oh my hell, she doesn’t have a boyfriend? Something must be wrong with her.” (And if they are thinking that please direct them to me, I’ll take care of it.)
Five,
When you do have a boyfriend (or significant other), they should help make you a better person.
By this, I mean that they should make everything in your life better. Like, hello, they are your boyfriend. They should make you laugh, and laugh so hard you cry. They should be there to cheer you on, not critique or reprimand you. They are your partner in crime for everything you wish to do. They should be the kind of person who loves you for exactly who you are, and everything you wish to be. I only wish for you to have the type of man who will eat pizza in bed with you at 1 in the morning while you drink red wine, and then wake your ass up in ten hours to go to the gym. This should be the type of man who will tell you you’re beautiful with no make-up on, who will make you breakfast in the morning, who will do stuff that YOU want to do, whether it’s with your family or just you, and have a damn good attitude while doing it (even though he might not want to be there.). This should be the type of man who loves you with his whole heart, puts you above all else, and lets you know this: Every. Damn. Day.
Six,
Your destiny is not predetermined by anyone other than God.
Meaning, you don’t have to get married at 20 and start popping kids out three months later. If you choose to never get married, fine. If you choose to travel the world and not get married until you’re 40, great. If you want 8 kids, awesome. If you don’t want any kids, cool. If you want to be a stay at home mom, sweet. If you want to be a career woman, deal. But whatever it is you choose to do, you better do it because that’s what YOU want. Not because someone else wants that for you, or because society tells you that’s what is “acceptable.” Simply trust in what God has in store for you, his plan never fails.
Seven,
Don’t listen to anything society tells you.
Period. End of question.
Eight,
Stay humble.
Have a big heart, be compassionate, be selfless, but never forget who you are or what you stand for. Remember that through all your triumphs and successes you are still human. People are constantly going to be looking at you, watching everything you do. So be the type of woman that your future daughters and nieces will look up to. Simply by being you, and being the best you, that will be enough. Just never forget that someone, somewhere, wants to be exactly like you. And for that, I can’t blame them. (Because you are amazing, duh!)
Nine,
Last, and never the least important. I will always be there for you.
I will be the person there for you at 2 o’clock in the morning when you are crying, or when you’re drunk, and telling me how much you love me. I will always be your biggest supporter. I will always be your best friend. No matter how much I disagree with something in your life, no matter how much I tease, no matter how big of an attitude I have. I will be there for you, and I love you more than you will ever know.
My number one goal in life is to be the type of woman that other’s look up to, and to share with other women that they are enough! YOU ARE ENOUGH, and I love each and every single one of you for being exactly who you are.
Xoxo,
It’s Her Journey